I am compelled to write about LOVE; mostly because I get it that nothing else really matters. There are belief systems and religious thought and courses for living, but for me, it comes down to love. Without it, nothing really feels good. So, the goal is love in all of its forms, in all of its glory, all the time, and as much as possible. Everything else is secondary and, ultimately, inconsequential.
I study body language. I watch people. I interpret what their facial expressions and bodily gestures are conveying about what they are feeling. A lot of what I see is fear, sadness, anger, contempt, and disgust. Occasionally, I see surprise. The expression I like to see most is happiness. It looks a lot like love.
I don’t believe much of anything goes well in life without love in it. Career, fame, fortune, and “getting what we want” all seem to be empty unless there is love. That is why I am choosing to put love at the forefront of all I intend. I’ve been a performer, actor, and singer, traveled the world, been without much money, been with an abundance of money, been deep in debt, and lived for years with no debt. I’ve been a student, a teacher, a writer, a television personality, a hypnotherapist, a personal and professional coach, and a body language specialist. I’ve been unemployed, held three jobs at one time, gotten paid an obscene amount of money for little work, and gotten paid nothing for a lot of work. I’ve been single, a serial dater, and in a long-term loving relationship. I’ve lived in a tiny box of an apartment and in the million dollar “big house on the hill.” I’ve driven old clunkers and new sports cars. I’ve dined with celebrities and eaten with the homeless. The quality of my experiences has been dependent upon the love I’ve given and allowed myself to receive.
What is glaringly obvious to me is that I need people, community. I love humanity. I really do. I love little kids at Halloween and Christmas. I love the way an older person holds my hand as if it is precious. I love watching people and being observed in return. It is a form of communication about which I am passionate. Yes, I stare. I know it is unnerving, but I like to stare. I like to watch what the eyes are saying, see how the body moves through space, and feel the electric spark of connection. The only way for me to keep doing this is to be very involved with the world. In recent years, I’ve sat for long hours on the computer or secluded myself from others while in between coaching sessions and public appearances. I love people. Why hide away? I’ve got love to give and receive in abundance. So, right now, even as I write, I dedicate myself to the community of humanity. I have something of great value to give. It is called love. It may come in the form of written words or body language interpretations or public appearances or quiet moments with a stranger. It may be unexpected or planned. What I know is that I am choosing to infuse it into everything that I do. Why should I waste any time being anything but love? If it is the best feeling in the world (and it is), if it is the ultimate goal for living (and it is), then why not commit to it fully and unabashedly?
I’d ask that anyone reading this help to keep me honest and on track with this intention. Sometimes I forget this very simple, beautiful truth that I’ve written here and I get distracted with “how” I’m going to do something. I start to think about being productive. I get busy with accomplishing things. In the process, I get lost. I forget to love as profoundly and I second-guess life’s meaning and purpose. Would you be so kind as to remind me? It can be as simple as a comment or a request or a perspective. I invite you to share with me. I like two-way conversations. Too much yakking on my part starts to become a monologue and I get bored with myself.
Finally, an invitation to anyone reading this on a blog, on facebook, on some other forum or through some other medium — come with me in the ultimate direction. Let’s fall in love with each other and spread it around.
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And, an expression of happiness settles on my face.
Body Talkin’,
Mark
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