Posts Tagged ‘rest’

FROM CONTRAST, NEW PERSPECTIVES ARE BORN

August 4, 2011

Nine years ago, after completing my secondary education in hypnotherapy and behavior modification, I started spending my time working in two different types of worlds — one-on-one coaching in private, quiet, personalized settings and on-camera coaching in bustling, activity-filled television production locations.  The former was a world of therapeutic insight designed to help individuals to identify and move through challenges hampering their personal and professional  growth and well-being.  The latter was a platform that effectively used the television medium as a form of “edutainment” that often helped not only the individual receiving the coaching, but also the production team working on the project and, eventually, the  viewing audience.  During this near decade of my life I have enjoyed these two worlds that I have been fortunate to work in and to inhabit.

My life has changed as everyone’s life has changed.  During my time since beginning work in my field, I have moved from the fast-paced activity of the Upper West Side of Manhattan to a peaceful, rural environment tucked way up in a Los Angeles Canyon surrounded by state government protected parklands.  Without fully realizing it as it was happening, I transitioned from a city dwelling, part-time personal development coach working in the “hurry up and wait” entertainment industry to a full-time, partially secluded, extremely reflective, “therapist type” lifestyle with occasional moments of group activity provided by seminars, workshops, and television appearances.  Each of these living and working scenarios has come with great advantages and blessings.  Each has birthed moments of contrast from which have sprung new desires for change.

I’ve discovered how much I thrive working with a team and in group settings.  During those times, a lot of energy is produced and expended; energy that feels natural and like a welcomed best friend with whom to play.  Playing with that much energy and shaping it in a way that is optimal for everyone concerned — self, production team, participants, viewers, etc. — requires a proper amount of rest and some time alone away from the group setting.  The rest and recuperation is key to staying healthy, inspired, and motivated.  I’ve also learned that there is a high price to pay for too much time spent over-analyzing any situation, my own or someone else’s.  For me, too much time alone, away from community, only connecting through phone, email, or in therapeutic settings has to be balanced with group play, fellowship, stepping out of the center of the circle and taking pleasure in watching the rest of “the team” do their thing.

I think I have learned a LOT in the past nine years.  I believe I am positioned to play with the energy that I adore so much in a way that is healthier and more giving and more profound than perhaps I was consciously aware of in the past.  This feeling, this realization, this perspective is brewing something in my life that I am not yet able to identify in words.  It is a feeling, a knowing.  I welcome it.  I respect it.  I honor it.  And, I am grateful for every step and every feeling and every experience that has brought me to this moment.

With gratitude,

Mark

www.MarkEdgarStephens.com

www.WhoAreYouChoosingToBe.com

AND PATIENCE MAKES SPACE FOR INSPIRATION…

July 28, 2011

As of late, I’ve been making a bit more space in my thoughts and in my life for new experiences, new adventures, new perspectives.  This practice takes patience.  Most times, I like to KNOW what is coming, for what to prepare, for what I should expect.  But, that is not how life really works.  The unexpected is the adventure.  The unknown is the norm.

Going to bed at night, I dedicate my sleep and my dream time to inspiration and clarity.  Even as I do this, I don’t know exactly what that dedication fully entails.  But, I do know that by setting that intention, I open my sleep and dream time to clarity and inspiration and that is what I have been getting.  When I awake in the morning, I list all that I can think of for which to be grateful.  This simple, but consistent practice of putting intention into my resting state and appreciation into my waking state is bringing me truly unexpected pleasure.  I’m understanding more clearly that sometimes a little less planning and a little less doing can actually clear up space for a little more patience and inspiration.  That bit of space adds to a feeling of profound satisfaction, peace, and contentment.  For me, without a doubt, this a very fair trade.

Inspired and still practicing patience,

Mark

http://www.MarkEdgarStephens.com

http://www.WhoAreYouChoosingToBe.com

BIRTHDAYS AND CHANGING PERSPECTIVES

March 24, 2011

This past week I celebrated my birthday.  It was not one of the “milestone” birthdays.  I didn’t plan a great deal for it and, indeed, it simply felt like another very good day.  When asked by friends if I had a good birthday, I responded, “It was great.  I slept late.  I ate well.  It was peaceful and calm.”

Of course, I also made the comment that you know you are getting older when you describe a “great birthday” as “peaceful and calm.”  Yet, that is exactly what it was and I wouldn’t have wished for anything else.  I didn’t need fireworks or parties or expensive gifts or an all-you-can eat cake and ice cream buffet (though that last item does sound pretty good.)  I suppose I look at birthdays and holidays differently now than previously in life.  I do believe the day is great if I feel healthy, sleep and eat well, and feel peaceful and calm.  When I look at it from this perspective, I realize that most every day is my birthday.  Who could ask for anything more?

Happy Birthday,

Mark

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BODY IMAGE!

August 10, 2010

I care a bit less now about how I appear to the world on the outside and I’m much more focused on how I feel on the inside.  This is a good thing.  The hair may recede a bit and it may become a bit more challenging to have a big, late night meal and NOT feel the effects in the middle of the night.  My body may be sore in places for reasons unknown and my face may indicate that I am no longer in my 20’s.  But, I freely admit that something has changed inside of me.  I am more aware of my desire to breathe deeply, to eat healthy, to sleep soundly, and to tell myself good things about me.  When I look at myself in the mirror, I see a body and a face that is aging with acceptance and with positive self-talk.  I have a choice about it.  I could choose to berate myself for not being in a 20-year old body and not having a face without a wrinkle.  But, that would be a waste of time.  Instead, I see a body that walks me up mountain sides, and bends and stretches daily.  I see a face that has heard many stories and lived many scenarios, but still chooses to smile and laugh.  I feel a glow inside and out that is not a reflection of youth, but a mirror of my gratitude, forgiveness, and love in this moment.  I enjoy where I am in life and I am thankful.  I am aware that life changes quickly and I will not visit this moment again.  So, as each change in my physical body comes, I will embrace it with open arms and know that I am truly blessed to feel all that I feel.  It is the journey of life and I choose to enjoy being on this ride.

Breathing deeply,

Mark

www.MarkEdgarStephens.com

www.WhoAreYouChoosingToBe.com

THE VALUE OF REST

May 18, 2010

While away for a few weeks I read (for the second time) a book given to me by my mother.  It is the simple story of a little girl named Anna who questions everything in the Universe.  There were many passages in the book that caused me to stop and think, but there was one section in particular that really sticks with me.  During a philosophical conversation with her older (but not always wiser) guardian, she ponders some of the facts in the creation story from The Bible.  She poses the question, “What was God’s greatest gift in the Creation Story?”  The guardian lists off the creation of heaven and earth, animals and nature, and finally, mankind.  Anna does not agree.  Ultimately, she says that God’s greatest gift was the rest that he took on the seventh day.  He gave the gift of rest.

When I came back from a very intense travel schedule (I continued to work remotely with clients via Skype, telephone, and email) and a visit with family and friends, I had a very intense cold.  As soon as I landed back in Los Angeles, I hit the ground running.  However, I was still sick and had not given my body the necessary time to rest and recover after my long and busy time away.  My body let me know it through a not so subtle relapse in the way that I was feeling.  Despite the Vitamin C, the zinc, the green juices, and the frequent nasal wash, I am convinced that the greatest healer was the rest I took.  I canceled my plans for Friday, Saturday and Sunday, and just rested — nowhere to go, nothing to do, just rest.  During this time, I was reminded of the musings of Anna.  Indeed, I think one of the greatest gifts we have been given (especially after a massive amount of “doing”) is rest.

How are you feeling?  Do you need a rest???

Peacefully,

Mark Edgar Stephens

www.MarkEdgarStephens.com

www.WhoAreYouChoosingToBe.com